My opinion on Facebook

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I know you all have been dying to hear me elaborate on my facebook/myspace opinion. (Ok, maybe nobody cares, but I'm going to pretend you are all dying to hear my opinion, because isn't the ability to pretend everyone cares one of the greatest joys of blogging, after all?) (Another note: I said facebook/myspace, but is myspace even "in" anymore? I was never "in" on this one, but I'm starting to get the feeling that myspace is so last year!)

I just read a couple of posts on a blog that a friend of mine turned me onto, motherhooduncensored (I know, I'm not a mother. It's still interesting to read. Mostly I read things my friends talk about to learn more about my friends. An easy way to be involved in peoples lives is to take the time to look into the things they are into) Ok, so back to facebook. The author of Motherhood Uncensored recently went through a little drama with her husband because he was talking to someone he should not have been talking to on facebook. And everyone has been there, right! Maybe not with your husband, but with someone in your life. Or you've had someone you know ask to be your friend, but this person is someone that you don't really want to have too close to your life, and you don't feel like you can say no to them being your friend because you have no real reason to, but then once you say ok you feel like you should censor what you say on your page a little because you don't want this person to know so much about your life. Or someone from your past finds you that you would really rather not be found by. Or you find someone from your past that you wish you hadn't found because dealing with whatever let them go from your life was just way to hard the first time around! And you can't keep people in your life forever. Sometimes it's best to just let people go.

I've known SO many people that get into fights either on or about myspace or facebook. And maybe these people are just immature. Maybe I should just say I can be more mature than that, but drama has a way of sucking people in. It's just so much easier to say "Screw it, I'm not on facebook"

I think, really, what it boils down to is that I'm a bit of a control freak. I feel like being on facebook gives up a little bit of the control I have over my life, specifically who I do and do not want to be found by. And yes, I know, you can make yourself non searchable. But then what's the point? I do just fine keeping up with the friends I have in other ways. Like by phone. Or e-mail. And plus, if I do that then I still have the problem of people that I'm kind of sort of acquainted with asking me if I'm on facebook. And what am I going to say them, "yes, but I made myself unsearchable because I don't want to be found by certain people. You happen to be one of them"?

And yes, I realize I'm blogging about wanting to keep my life somewhat private. Ironic, considering how public blogging is! But not that many people I know blog. And no one ever says to me "Do you have a blog?" putting me in that uncomfortable position of weighing out whether or not I want that person to actually read my blog! And ex-boyfriends and ex-roommates and ex whoevers never search blogger to nose around into peoples lives! I mean, I don't know, I guess they might, but you rarely hear about blogger drama. You hear about facebook drama all the time! Anyway, if anyone who knows me finds me on blogger now, they'll probably think twice about making contact after reading this post! lol. Like "Wow, am I one of those people who she would prefer to not be found by?" Haha.

This is a big rant for such a tiny thing. I know. And I've tried to get over it. I actually did go to create a facebook account, but then it made me go through all this crap of asking if I wanted to "find my friends" and it could "look through my e-mail account to locate people I would likely know". I panicked and chickened out. It's all just too public for me!

Don't get me wrong here. I mean to say nothing negative about the author of Mother Uncensored. She even talks about all of this herself, saying some people should just be left in the past. And I don't judge people who are on facebook and love it. Go, do, be happy. It's all fabulous. But I just can't do it. Plus I'm a social networking retard anyway! I can barely figure out how the whole thing works! I'm just now getting the hang of this blogging thing. And how easy is that!

The only time I've ever wished I was on facebook was when Aubrey was trying to find me. Because here is a person I DID want to be found by. But the thing is, the people that really matter will find you if it that's important. There's other ways... like through a good old fashioned letter! :)

It's ok, you can call me neurotic after reading this. Like I said, I know this is a BIG rant for such a tiny (and immensely popular) thing. I think in my first post I mentioned that I don't do myspace or facebook, and said you can ask about it if you want but it's really not that serious... well apparently, from the length of this post, this time it IS that serious! Haha.